Sure, I would not mind saving 500
dollars. Dan wants to join the Cornell Ski team. Abby will need help this winter as she teaches 4 year olds
to ski and Jeff… It’s surprising how many incidentals one generates on one’s meteoric
ride to Master of the universe/ second year medical student. Life goes on, I am
still parent of three single students who need funding, despite my daily, sundry
struggles.
It’s
easy, too. The money saving, not the master of the universe thing. I need to complete the
oxymoronically named “Wellness form.” My GVHD tide is slowly receding, yet again,
fading slowing under the renewed effects of Rapimmune and prednisone. I have stopped
eyeing the room for potential devices of self-extinction. I feel I am safe around sharp objects, shards
of glass, beakers of Hemlock, and my sister- in- law.(1)
To
save money, I need to answer health questions and undergo a physical. In the
past few years, I have viewed maintenance health care as a waste of time. I want to scrawl, “I have cancer! Every day is an unexpected surprise” across every form requesting a preventative health
care check up. I derive perverse pride from my disease.
I think of Men in Black:
“You're no longer part of the
system. You are above the System. Over it. Beyond it. We're them. We're they.
We are….” People fighting Cancer.
To paraphrase Gold hat, from the treasure
of the Sierra Madres,
“Health exam? We don’t need any
stinking health exams, asshole”
Preventive care? That ship sailed 7 years ago, now I am well into besiegement mode. My
medical situation resembles the Israeli zealots barricaded on Masada,
awaiting their doom at the
hands of the Romans who had surrounded their desert redoubt. Telling me to take
cholesterol medication would be like telling the zealots to wear sunblock, because nothing is
worse than being tortured by the Romans except being tortured by the Romans while
suffering from a bad sunburn.
I am slowly being reintroduced to preventative
medicine. Much to my chagrin,
Ted asks about my
cholesterol and blood pressure, whereas all I want to do is shout , “LDL? Fuck that, tell me how to overcome this crippling steroid neuropathy, my mouth pain, my blah blah blah blah.”
I go to the wellness website. They ask a
series of questions about my health, habits and lifestyle. I develop a headache from
excessive eye rolling.
Exercise? They want to know about exercise? How many calories does
one burn searching for gauze to
staunch the flow of blood from a
newly opened vein that lies under
my steroid and Coumadin weakened
skin?
I
can’t see any benefit from these asinine questions. My insurance is through my
work, I can’t be dropped. Aetna
must possess a voodoo doll with my face on it into which they stick pins. I am aware Aetna’s’ stockholders lose 5 cents in dividend
income every time I receive $10,000
worth of IVIG.
I
should not be alive. I recall a Bill Maldin WWII cartoon.:
I feel like a fugitive from the law of averages.
That’s me. Don’t ask about my bloody blood pressure, ask about my risk of secondary
malignancy from all -out land
assault that was launched against my marrow and flesh.
Still
a cool $500 saving just by answering some questions . I’m answering questions about stress and alcohol when I get to the question I’ve been dreading since I signed on 31 minutes ago.
Question: Do you have Cancer? There are 4 possible responses
1) I am living with cancer.
This annoys me, it’s a euphemistic way of saying “ I am dying with cancer”
2) I had cancer but am now cancer free
3) I never had cancer
4) I refuse to answer.
I Can’t answer #4… I am not proud of my disease but still, refusing to answer is admitting to having cancer
Monty Python, Life of Brian
“Are you a Virgin”
“I refuse to answer!”
“She’s a virgin”
Answer three is out, because it’s a lie. So, do I answer #1 or 2?
Yikes. I probably have a
few leukemia cells kicking around
inside. They will lurk within me until
I die, kept in check by my overly neurotic and aggressive donor cells. But, it’s not an accurate assessment. I don’t expect to die of cancer unless
I have a heart attack while participating in the Jimmy Farber walkathon one year, or if I get hit by
the LMA bus ( Longwood area shuttle bus) as it drops employees at the Farber.
Yikes. A cancer survivor could become an exsurvivor at this event. |
So,
that leave us with
2) I am cancer free
This presents the most metaphysical
of all the answers. Quick Quiz:
Cancer:
1) A clone of immortal cells that are resistant to treatment and
often result in death
2) Cancer:
a state of violent change and disruption of one’s life.
3) A disease that will soak into your
every dream, your every waking moment even if you are unaware of its presence.
4) A disease that will
change you, your family and your future for ever and ever .
5) Cancer: The ultimate stigma, every time you hear about any one dying
of cancer, you will mumble “There but for the grace of god go I.”
Choice
number two isn’t accurate
either . No one is ever free from
a cancer diagnosis. No one is ever cancer free once one receives that diagnosis.
So, which box do
I check? I check?
5) “Yikes, don’t ask” is accurate but resembles #4.
In the end, the best answer would be a modified #1, which violates the questions euphemistic intent:
1) I am living
with, existing with, worrying about, whining over, obsessing
about, terrified by, suffering from the side effects of, and annoying family members over, my cancer diagnosis. There. Where do I check?
( 1) Yikes ! I mean no offense. In any event I have several sisters in law. It just seems that whenever I visit SIL "M" the converstaion turns a bit dark, in my effort to spare Cyn endless nihilistic conversations. To my SILs : I love you all.
2 (2) Yikes! It's SsIL sorry, grammar police.
( 1) Yikes ! I mean no offense. In any event I have several sisters in law. It just seems that whenever I visit SIL "M" the converstaion turns a bit dark, in my effort to spare Cyn endless nihilistic conversations. To my SILs : I love you all.
2 (2) Yikes! It's SsIL sorry, grammar police.